norse goddess
Thank you to the unknown creator of this online art.

Marriage is prison. Pure perversion.

There have been billions of forced, loveless marriages over the course of history. Many marriages are a  result of a “family” wanting their children to breed like cattle so they will have someone to take care of them in their old age, or forcing children to marry because of unwanted pregnancies.

Some countries now mercifully allow divorce, but many nations do not — even when one partner is abused. Marriage is an unjust institution, designed to entrap and enslave.

Yes, I believe in love and raising children in a safe environment. The family, however, does not have to be a man, a woman and their children. Families are of many configurations more creative, compassionate and free flowing than the societal cliché.

Marriage has brought so much unhappiness and bondage to the world. If I am with someone, it must be my choice, my free decision — not because of some tradition-dictated, civil or religious arrangement.

I despise marriage. Just because everyone is doing it, does not make it right. It is a perversion of faux love and faux friendship — a means to extract money from people and to provide insurance and bragging rights to selfish parents. (Believe me, I am not one of those.)

I despise marriage. I despise watching someone’s life fall into ruin because of being forced to marry a non compatible stranger. Being with someone is about voluntary love and promise. Can you honestly name more than a few married couples who have even a shred of happiness because of their marriage? Happiness and joy is in spite of marriage.

If I am with someone, even when it is difficult, it is only because I choose to be.

This is something I simply had to write out of conviction and experience. Yes, it is counter-cultural. I am a 70 year old retired clergy-woman. I have seen a lot and lived a lot. My true family is of kindred heartfelt love, not common nationality or DNA.


  1. Dear Maam
    I’m so sorry to say this but I really don’t know where this stuff going to help me in life but I’m sure, in future, I’m going to need this. Thank you, Mrs. Jean, (So long I regard you Miss, my bad) for this beautiful piece. You have no idea how serious things you had written. I want to be your disciple(if you want) be my mentor and teach me more about Marriages, Love, Life.
    I am waiting to hear from you
    Your obedient student.


    1. Dear Md., I am so honored by this comment. I think you know we follow each other on Twitter and Instagram too. I love your poems and thoughts. Yes, I think we both write seriously. I am thrilled to learn from each other. Many viewpoints in the world and much to learn from others : )) Thank you.


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